My friend in London.

Greta Grinfeld - 19 Sep 05

I met Charlotte in June 2002, when Stuart and I went out for dinner at Cottons, in Camden with Martin and her.  She was about 7 months pregnant with Solly. Stuart had spoken to me a lot about M & Char, and I really wanted them to like me. I was very quiet and shy. Charlotte was beautiful and stylish. She was so relaxed and cool and fun. She kept on asking me the right things, despite my yes/no/sorry? dull answers, until she mentioned something about museums. Then I knew we shared this love of museums and felt so good about it, and we talked a lot. She knew how to make someone feel comfortable and good.

clb_shb_buenosaires_oct03_256 In November 2003 Stuart and I got married in Buenos Aires. Martin and Charlotte where the first friends, probably the first people (apart from Stuart’s mum) to say they were coming to the wedding. We felt so happy about it. Solly was just over 1 year old and it was a long way to take a little one but there was never any doubt they would come. Char stayed at the party and danced all night until 5 o’clock in the morning, but said she was sorry for leaving early. She managed to do everything, go everywhere and enjoy every minute of it.

arg1103_086_256 Right after the wedding, we went to the Iguazu Falls, on the border between Argentina, Brazil and Paraguay, for a two-day “honeymoon” with lots of family and friends. Stu was sick and stayed in bed all the time. In the evening, Martin and Solly went to bed early, and Charlotte and I went for a drink. It was a very warm late spring evening in the forest, and we had a wonderful chat over a couple of cocktails about married life and family, and about mothers and sisters. It was suddenly very late. I went back to the bedroom and Stu was in such a mood because I’d left him on his own on the second night of our honeymoon. I’m pleased I spent that evening with Char. 

Char had a very rare and special ability. She could truly understand people. She was one of the very few that always understood what I said, despite my thick accent and the funny words I sometimes use. And if she didn’t (I’m sure she did), she always made me feel understood. I guess that’s why she could truly appreciate who each person was, not letting anything else interfere, not being judgemental. I believe that’s why she was such an extraordinary person and my favourite friend in London. Everyone felt happy and safe when she was around and that’s why, as Martin said, she had the ability to touch your heart from the first instant you met her.